Long gone are the days where we had 2 hours to shower, blow dry hair, exfoliate, moisturise and do a full face of make-up. And that’s before trying on 6 different outfits to feel ah-mazing! You’re too busy playing with play doh and carting the kids off to the next activity. The pep in your step is replaced with a shuffle around the kids and the racing on to get the next chore done. With all those sleepless nights and giving your all for your kids it hasn’t left much for you.
Was it ever really there? Did it slowly fade away over time? Is it just napping?
It is hard when there are so many things knocking the wind out of our sails every day - no time for self care, exhaustion, judgement from people around us, the barrage of images on social media, the constant pressure to be the perfect mum, oh the list goes on and I could have a mild anxiety attack just writing about it!
And you are not alone. We’re all there.
Well it’s time to get a hold of it now. Now is as good a time as any. And your confidence is not just about you anymore. We have to practice what we preach. How will our children learn about confidence if we can’t live it ourselves - children learn more through experience than talking. (Except when I swear and Miss 3.5 repeats it. I’ll give her credit though, because she does use it in context!)
confidence definition: a feeling of self-assurance arising from an appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities
’She’s brimming with confidence’ is how the web dictionary described the definition above. Let’s take a moment to think about this.
We asked a bunch of mums what boosts their confidence and here were some of the surprising answers:
Next time you’re drinking your cold coffee take a moment to think about the things that make you feel confident and the small changes in your day you could implement. It’s a journey but your kids will thank you later.